I lost my phone last Sunday in a very bizarre & funny way.
I am not sure how long it took for it to develop, but it must have been a while that I got a smart phone addiction. It was last Saturday that I had come to a realization of my addiction to a smart phone. Last Saturday, I was playing with my kids & I kept answering their questions or talking to my kids while being glued to my phone. My wife pointed out a few times, but I had also caught myself many times prior to her pleas.
Sunday night….after putting my kids to sleep, I came to my studio for a cook out with friends. A long beautiful night with drinks & laughters…. Yet, catching myself looking at my phone during the entire night.
We drank a lot & I ended up crashing in the couch. Upon waking up early in the morning, I was looking for my phone, but couldn’t find it. So I called my number to locate it as usual….only to find out someone else answered it.
Of course, I wasn’t completely sober when that happened and was more taken aback by the fact that someone else answered it. Anyways, I had to hurry & go home in time for my wife goes to work. A few hours later, I was back in my studio… and by this time, things started to vaguely come together. I called my number again & somewhere in his words (he sounded a bit dazed & lost), he said…” you gave me the phone”.
Then, it all came together. Yeah, I did give my phone to a homeless guy walking by upon realizing my addiction & I felt at that moment that my phone was causing me many problems.
For the 1st few days, I seriously considered going “Cellphone - Less” & ordered the landline for Sandast Studio.
By Wednesday, I came to a realization that the phone is needed. After all, my wife works & we have 3 children.
For the past few days, I was debating if I should get the non-smartphone or not… only to realize that I needed a smart phone or its messenger apps to talk to my clients in various countries. So I brought back my old Iphone, but decided to keep my distance from it.
It has been about 6 days that I am going somewhat “Digital Detoxication” and I must tell you. This has been the biggest blessing that happened to me.
I’ve told all of my friends to stop texting me, but to call me & we have been conversing.
More importantly, it has drastically improved my time with my children. Every morning, my routine is to walk my 2 older boys to school & walk around the neighborhood with my youngest in a stroller. For the past few months, I had done it while listening to music or podcasts…. past 3 days, I was talking to my youngest throughout the walk.
And I asked myself…. “What else have I been missing???”
Indeed… losing the phone last Sunday was the blessing.
Today marks the 15th day I’ve gone completely “Cellphone Free”.
Ever since I had the 1st “digital detoxication”, I found myself slowly but surely getting back to where I was before I had realized my addiction to the phone.
So I’ve decided to rid of my phone completely & Yes, for the 1st 3 days, I was quite anxious & jittery. But I’ve learned to adjust and now I feel really great!
I understand not everyone has a luxury of “not having to have a cellphone” like me. Some people are required to have the cell phone for their job & etc… where as I am always here in my Studio and my friends & family can get hold of me via our landline.
I’ve always disliked “texting” and No, I don’t consider “Texting” as “communicating.”
Yes, I know “texting” is quite convenient and easy. And perhaps, because it is too convenient & easy, it is being casually over-used.
Although it has only been 15 days, I am already noticing some positive changes in my life.
I am definitely reading more, spending more time talking to friends, and am enjoying my weekend better.
Not sure how long I will continue to be “Cellphone Free”, but it will be a lot of fun.
Will keep you posted.
July 1st, 2019
it’s been about 4 months since I went “Cellphone Free”.
Besides the 1st few weeks when I felt anxious and jittery not having a cellphone…. it really didn’t present any challenge. Of course, when I am working in my Studio, I have an access to the landline & email, and that helps the negate the need to have a cellphone.
I did a few road trips in the month of June and it made me realize how much our lives are tied into a cellphone.
I was trying to book a room on Airbnb and instead of a few simple clicks, I had to call Airbnb and talked to one of their representatives to book a room. Instead of simply calling an “Uber”, now I must do some study before visiting a new town for its public transportation….. and having to ask a patron or a local business owner to make a phone call.
However, my biggest challenge thus far has been driving to a new place without having “Google Map Navigation”. Remember when we used to print several pages from Yahoo Map a long time ago?
That is what I did before driving to the Pismo Beach, CA.
I remember myself being very well around with directions in my youth, and I am not sure when this habit developed, but before I got rid of my phone, I always had the Google navigation on while driving even going to a neighborhood I knew well.
I had the maps printed and was nervously alert not to miss any exit or freeway driving up to my Airbnb place. It required a few stops here and there to ask for or confirm the directions, but I thankfully made it.
Having shared the story with a few friends, some asked me if “going Cellphone Free” was worth all the troubles. I am not so sure…. but I do know this.
My weekend has never been so peaceful ever since I went “Cellphone Free” and I would like to recommend all of you to go “Cellphone Free” at least on Sunday if you are spending it with your family.
Thanks for reading and I hope to provide another update in a few months.